Ana Arcos Solari

Were you the peacemaker, the fixer, the responsible one, or the invisible child? Think back for a moment. Not to a single memory, but to a “feeling” the one that used to settle over the dinner table, or the car ride home, or the quiet after your parents had been arguing. What did you do with that feeling? Did you crack a joke to lighten the room? Did you quietly disappear into your bedroom? Did you take charge, smooth things over, make sure everyone was okay? Whatever you did, you learned...

For a long time, I believed that being "the easy one" was just who I was. Accommodating. Agreeable. The person who kept the peace, smoothed things over, made sure everyone else was okay before I even asked myself how I was doing. It took me years, and a lot of inner work, to understand that this wasn't my personality at all. It was something I learned. And once I understood why I learned it, everything started to make sense. We Are Born Into a System None of us arrive into the world as a...

Can I be honest with you for a second? I struggled many times in my life and on the outside it looked everything was fine, I was still going, I was still running. But on the inside, the energy wasn't flowing. I was still showing up. Getting things done. Keeping everyone happy. And quietly, behind the scenes, I was running on empty. It was draining. Maybe that's you right now. If it is, I want you to know you're not alone. And you're not crazy. What you're feeling has a name. It's emotional...